Perfectionism: is this something we can live with and manage throughout life

Author Brene Brown writes, "Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame."

Perfectionism is not a mental health disorder, but rather a personality trait-marked by setting excessively high standards for oneself. The root causes of perfectionism often include fear of failure, low self-esteem, and a need for control. It is commonly linked to high parental expectations or critical feedback during childhood.

You are not born a perfectionist. While there may be a genetic predisposition, environmental influences play a significant role in its development. Overcoming the negative self-talk associated with perfectionism can be challenging, but it is possible.

Strategies such as practicing self-compassion, setting realistic goals, andchallenging negative thought patterns are essential. It's important to remember that perfection is unattainable and that mistakes are necessary opportunities for learning and growth.

Psychotherapy can be incredibly helpful in developing a deeper understanding of yourself and managing perfectionistic tenedencies. In some cases, medication may also be beneficial. Often, therapists will assess whether medication is appropriate during the course of treatment. For some individuals, therapy is effective on its own, while others may find that it works best in combination with medication.